Learned Helplessness: When You Stop Trying
Why do we stay in bad situations when we could leave? Martin Seligman's shocking experiments reveal how we learn to be powerless.
The Dogs That Didn't Jump
In the 1960s, Martin Seligman observed something strange. Dogs that had been subjected to unavoidable shocks earlier did not try to escape shocks later, even when the cage door was wide open. They just laid down and whined. They had learned that nothing they did mattered. This is Learned Helplessness.
The Human Cage
Humans do this too. If you fail a math test repeatedly as a child, you might decide "I'm bad at math" and stop studying, guaranteeing failure. If you are rejected in relationships, you might stop trying to connect. The tragedy is that the "cage door" is often open. The barrier is no longer external; it is internal. You believe you are helpless, so you become helpless.
Learned Optimism
The good news: If helplessness can be learned, it can be unlearned. Seligman later developed "Learned Optimism." It involves challenging your own explanatory style. When bad things happen, view them as temporary ("This will pass"), specific ("Just this one situation"), and changeable ("I can fix this").