PSYCHOLOGY
shadow-work
relationships
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The Shadow in Relationships: Projection and Mirrors
Why do I hate that person specifically? "What I hate in you is actually my shadow," explained through Carl Jung's theory.
Jungian Analyst• 6 min read
Mirroring Theory
We feel intense loathing when we discover aspects in others that we do not want to acknowledge in ourselves (Shadow). This is called **. In other words, that person who is particularly annoying is a mirror reflecting my unconscious.
Conflict is an Invitation
Conflict in relationships is an 'invitation for growth'. Instead of blaming the other person, ask yourself:
- "What behavior of that person triggers me?"
- "Is that behavior suppressed within me too?" (e.g., If you hate a selfish friend, you might actually have a suppressed desire to express your needs freely.)**